Ex Etiquette

I called the Ex - almost a week after his dad had passed away; after I got over my... fear.

His dad had been very depressed since his grandmother's passing - half a year ago. And his health, which had not been good, deteriorated until he needed dialysis. The end was over quickly - a week in a nursing home/ICU for pneumonia. I suppose his dad would have wanted it this way too - quick; he would not have wanted to linger at Death's Door, or live a few more years as an invalid.

We talked about his dad's love for the "finer" things in life and shared a fond though rueful laugh. I was glad to hear that his dad made peace with the family in the last few months. I also asked about his sister - before it occurred to me whether it would be appropriate to bring up something that is so personal; something that I was privy to as the Girlfriend.

We chatted for a little while more about life, and he thought we should meet up the following week to catch up. He said he would call me. (Yeah. Whatever. Shrug.)

After I hung up, I thought about my earlier anxiety. Though we no longer share our lives, and we walk different paths, it was nice to know that some things we once shared are still there.

I am glad that I had called.

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I remember his dad used to call me "Christine". I got used to it after a while.

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Why do people say they would like to "catch up" or "will call" - but they don't?

It just seems like such an awlful waste of words to me.